WRITING: Accepting

At the point of me breaking down, feeling all alone and helpless, I realized, I am blessed with strong ladies surrounding me who are so dear to me and being tested with so many things and yet managed to pull through. One of them is my dear friend who just lost her child at the 11th hour of pregnancy.

In my humble opinion, this friend of mine is nothing but strong! Being a mom has never comes with a manual with it. I, myself went through three pregnancy mode and Alhamdullillah, everything went well with not much complications despites of me having a bad all-day sickness throughout all three semesters for all three pregnancies.

Having ‘something’ in your womb is nothing anyone could describe it exactly words by words, and therefore, to have the opportunity to carry a soul in your very own womb is nothing but a blessing miracle.

I’ve known few strong mommies who had difficulties during their pregnancies; getting pregnant itself is a complication, making sure the cells that become one beats healthily is another qualms, let it grow safely without ‘disturbing’ us is a challenge and welcoming the little mass securely to this physical world is always full of anticipations.

For whatever, we would want the soul to come out safe and sound, ten fingers and ten toes and all well.

But we are only human, the creature that Allah created with its purposes and all well written and well planned for. And from Him we came from and back to Him we shall go to.

Some of us are lucky to have been able to see the little soul who was just a heartbeat, grow up fine and grace right in front of our eyes.

Some was lucky enough to get the chance to bond for a short while before the soul was taken back to The AlMighty.

This friend of mine, lost a soul on her fifth month of the pregnancy and we were sad for her. But that was nearly a year or two ago.  When we found out that she got back on her own feet and was blessed for the fourth pregnancy, we were ecstatic. She was due anytime when we met up with her (at times the picture was taken). Who could have thought the what would happened next. We got a message from her that she has lost her child that she carried for nine month and was due ‘soon’. The soon came not as we’ve expected. The baby was healthy, and until today, I don’t have the heart to ask her what really had happened… I am still mourning for her, and I knew, in her smile, in her laugh, in her words, she is still missing her baby Jayden.

“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you, and perhaps you love a thing
and it is bad for you; and Allah knows while you know not.  
{Al-Quran 2:216}

Rest assured, you never lost that child – I know, you know, we know. How blessed are you, having not one but two of your own flesh and blood waiting for you up in the Heaven, InsyaAllah.

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WRITING: Priority?

I saw a struggling mom updating her FB status on weekends, had to leave  her only child with the babysitter as she and her husband had to complete some task prior to Monday big event at the office.

And for that instance, I am blessed for the ‘nikmat masa’ that Allah gives me that I am able to spend plenty of time with my husband and children for I was not working[1].  I wish every mother could have this life. A flexible life of no 9-to-5 working shift for five days in a week. It’s a luxury!

On the other side of the coin, I do understand, that is not an easy decision to make. Living in the world today, some mommies are left to no option than to work. No matter how much they wish they could just spend more time on the family, the world seems not to agree with them. I’m sorry for them. I know how badly they wanted to just not work and be able to send and pick up their children to and from school.  Some may wish to get more involved with the volunteering and charity works. Some would just want to bake and cook and try lots of new food. Some would just love to decorate the room, the stairs and so forth. Some would just wanted to write book. Summing-up, how wonderful life could be if mommies do not have to work and do what ever they want to do.

Nevertheless, we knew mommies who were scared of letting go their career life. They are 15% on making their way to pinnacle. They have been working all their hard since they were in the university, earned a reputable degree, went through the hardship climbing the career ladder and they are just a distant away to reach the peak. They are not letting go. Some may be able to balance their work and family life. Some would be struggling. Some would just ignore it.

This is when we, mommies, should know where to put our priorities right. If we think, sending our little baby at the babysitter’s home on weekend so that we could complete the assignment that the boss is expecting on the following week, ask ourselves, have we put our priority right?

Yup, it ain’t easy. After all, in Islam, we are not responsible for our children as it should be the father’s role and responsibility. Let’s hold the topic of roles and responsibility between a father and a mother for a while. Don’t put any religious opinion in it, though we must acknowledge Islam is the way of life, hence we can’t put anything aside in making any decision. But I just wanted to know, mommies with ambitions, what stopping you from outing your ambition to your own flesh and blood? How much do you need to earn so that you could take a time off to spend a peaceful weekend with your little one? Will it be for a month, a year or a lifetime?

I talked too much. I’m very biased in giving my opinion about working and not working and I’m sorry. I’m not against any working mom. But I wanted all mommies to know, working or not working, we just have to place our priority rightly. We just have to know what’s important and what’s less important. In my strong-headed opinion, nothing is more important than your family. I beg to differ. Allah is the most important in life, and when we put Him as our number one, we know, as a wife, we are oblige to our husband. Yes, some husband support the wife to be successful in the career..but I’m sure, most husband would prefer their wife to put the family first in the list, than work.

Or maybe I’m wrong.

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[1] I do have issues defining not working… Perhaps in my next chapter of the write-ups.


I cried yesterday. I cried while waiting for the dinner to be served on our table in our nice cozy neighbourhood mamak’s place. I cried when I wanted to place our order for dinner and the waiter gave me an empty look, still waiting for my order. I snapped. Not to the waiter though, but to the boys. I asked them to place the order, instead. And they were so obedient following to my instructions, placing their orders and asked me politely what was it that I wanted to have for dinner. I snapped. And I shouldn’t. I snapped because I could hear myself so loud and clear, yet the waiter did not give any respond. I snapped and I blame the boys, and I shouldn’t.

The oncologists label it as remission. Google Dictionary defines it as (1) the cancellation of a debt, charge or penalty; (2) a diminution of the seriousness or intensity of disease or pain; a temporary recovery; or (3) forgiveness of sins. Boots WebMD (webmd.boots.com) defines it as a word doctors often use when talking about cancer. It means that after cancer treatment, there are no signs of the cancer. Complete remission means that tests, physical exams and scans show that all the signs of the cancer one had are gone.  I called it another fancy name for type of sickness after cancer treatment, and it’s no fun and the ending is always ambiguous. I’ve asked my onco, when will ‘this’ last? He gave me a blank look and told me ‘it depends! Some people were okay after seven to ten years, some took longer and some lucky one could fully recover after five years. It depends. But as long as the cancer is inactive, you’ll be okay.’ And apparently, I somehow find out later in life that I got conned by the meaning of remission. Of course, I am thankful for the treatment went well and after eight cycles of chemo and thirty-three cycles of tomography, I was cancer-free. Alhamdullillah.  And until today, I knew it deep inside myself, being diagnosed of getting nasopharyngeal cancer[1] stage III has always been a blessed to me, no doubt. I’ll talk about it a little later.

Chemo was bad.  Pairing it with radiotherapy made it worst. The experiences were unbearable and it will always make me lost for words when the need to describe the pain rose. It’s indescribable. To some extent, I remember saying no matter how much I hate a person for doing something evil and bad to others, I won’t pray for that person to go through that chemo-radio experience like I did. It’s not fair to any human kind.

And I thought chemo was horrible. Until I met the monster remission. Remission is supposed to be a ‘good’ word. It brings hope and energy… mentally. Going through it was another story.

It is my third going to the fourth year of remission at times me writing this down. And as much as I wanted to believe that it would get better in times, it keeps on giving me false hopes. In the end, the best solution is to wait and see. After all, I am still here, typing this out word by word while some cancer patients are struggling to survive and some has even departed.

I got a nudge for High Above. I am definitely thankful for the given chance. Imagine if I didn’t make it and leave the world.. truth was.. I was a great sinner… am not saying that I’m such a holy now, but, the least I was given another chance to repent and to prepare for the eternity life. Alhamdullilah. How can I not be thankful?

And being thankful, I shouldn’t complain. And I am not complaining. It’s just that, once a while, when the fluids from ears were overflowing and I couldn’t bear the sticky fluid coming out from my ears, I cried. And sometimes, when the constant buzzing in my ears decided to amplify itself and made both of my ears blocked badly and I could literally hear myself breathing, I cried. And sometimes, when I thought I was screaming calling my kids’ names and they were just doing whatever ignoring my call because the call was not even a call as there could any sound reaching out to their ears, I cried. Sometimes, when I was just so tired for not doing anything and all I had to do to recover was sleep hours and hours and hours on the bed and I could even had the guts to get some food into my stomach, I cried. And sometimes, when I could hardly feel anything on both my feet and my hands and my nerves were numb and to some extent I had some blood flowing on my fingers from the knife’s cut and I didn’t feel it at the time of the incident, I cried.

Once a while, I cry. Once a while, I wonder, how long will these last? Once a while, I wish things would go back to normal….  And for now, I’m settling for this being the new normal.

At times me writing this, I was reminded of Kak Nani and Hani. Two strong ladies who had their chemo complete, did the surgery to remove the damaged organs and standing strong until today. Kak Nani has been in remission for more than a decade and Hani is in her second year. I remembered asking Kak Nani, ‘How long will this lasts? When will we get our ‘normal’ life.’ And her answer, ‘I’m still waiting’ just deserved one good strong long hug, both her and myself need that comforting hug. Then, Hani came and asked me few months back, ‘When will this last? When will we be strong like we used to be?’. And dear buddy, I’m still waiting. We were never a survivor. We are surviving, till it lasts. For the time being, we just have to adapt with our new normal

[1] Nasopharyngeal cancer is a rare type of head and neck cancer. It starts in the upper part of your throat, behind the nose. This area is called the nasopharynx. The nasopharynx is precariously placed at the base of your skull, above the roof of your mouth. Your nostrils open into the nasopharynx. (source: http://www.google.com)

Parenting: Helping Children Deal with Their Feelings

The school’s mother circle had our first meeting for the year last Friday. We talked about children feelings (and mommies’ feeling as well 🙂 ). Our discussion was based on Chapter 1 of How to Talk so Kids Will Listen (by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish) and try to apply it based on Khalifah Method Parenting. It was a good sharing that I thought the need of sharing it here as well.

It has been our tendency to immediately react to the children issues or problems by addressing the ‘solution’ first before trying to understand the whole scenario. We don’t usually make any effort to really understand what is actually bugging them, but we offer solutions based on our ‘experience’ and assumptions. We keep forgetting to remind ourselves that our children are also individuals who have their own opinions, feelings and experience things differently as themselves.

In order for us to manage our children correctly, we should learn to manage their feelings accordingly. Being able to manage their feelings, will help us a lot in managing their life. How can we learn to manage them?

Listen to our children, acknowledge our children and their feelings. Do not shut them immediately when they express or wanting to share their opinions with us. Listen to them. Identify what distract us from listening and responding to them the correct manner. What makes us ‘so busy’ and occupied that we couldn’t take time off to listen to our children issues? Yes, sometimes children would just voice out their issues at not an appropriate time, while we were driving, cooking and doing some other chores. But please don’t just shut them immediately. Explain to them ‘I want to hear your problem, but can we talk about it later as I have to finish what I’m currently doing? If I forgot, could you please remind me?’ And, yes, please come back to them. Start treating them as one of an important individual that you have to give your time like other individuals.

Don’t immediately deny our children feeling. Out of habit, we will always deny our children feeling before we really listen to their issues and try to understand the issues. Just as simple as :

“I don’t like my sister.” Our ‘defensive’motherly insticnt would reply “You shouldn’t said that. She is your sister.”

We should learn to únderstand why our children say it in the first place. Would it be just a one-off occasion, or just want to grab our attention or perhaps just in need of a pair of ears to just listen to them? By denying their feelings immediately, we might start an argument with them or they decided not to share their feelings and shut us off immediately.

Being an adult, we should show empathy. Children with empathy will grow up in a very positive and healthy environment and able to understand things and situation better. Children with empathy have higher tolerance with others as compared to those who have none. They would be able to figure out the solutions in most issues as they understand why people react and respond in certain manners.

When listening to children’s problem, give names to their feelings. Just feed them with vocabularies that describe their current emotions so they would understand their own feelings and put the right words in the right context. One can feel so down and stressed out, but one must need to identify was it because of the anger, frustration, upset or just a mellow feeling because of the ‘weather’. Anger might have a lot different level of anger, anger because of betrayals, or feeling upset or many others. Some words might be to ‘bombastic’ and ‘high end for the children, Just feed them when appropriate. Don’t be scared for they would learn better when they understand when to use it at the right time.

Put what has been outlined in Khalifah Method in practice in order to help our children to deal with their feelings:

  1. Incalculate love in parenting
  2. Reinforce the right values, rewards if necessary
  3. Be firm but kind

In helping children to cope with their issues, we can help them understand better by being creative such us describing the whole scenario (visual socialize) and what to expect so they don’t think we are denying them when things happen not as expected, and we should always encourage them to depend on Allah, He gives (or don’t) what’s best for our own benefits.

Mommies, never put our children’s frustration as your frustration. Everything that they are going through is part of their learning in living their life. Love them, truly! Love them much!!! 

AWARENESS : Dealing with Grief

My husband lost his mom last Friday. She departed peacefully, All Praise to Allah. Two days after the tragedy, he was having a ‘suspected’ heart attack symptom, which resulted in him getting the first experience being a casualty being driven to the General Hospital in an ambulance. After an ECG and blood test, the doctor ruled out heart attack despite the rigorous sweating, chest tightness and chest pain symptoms. It was a severe asthma attack. t was right after the passing of my husband’s mom and his encountered with the pain, I received a phone call from my dad telling us that my uncle who has been suffering from a heart attack for nearly two weeks passed away. And I am drained out with grief and sad news.

So, how do we handle grief? Of late, we’ve heard so often that young mothers, men at their youth, struggling husbands and many more have been damaged from depression. One of the causes of depression is grief. The loss is part of parcel of life. One would expect a new person in one’s life, and one can’t deny losing someone one’s loved so dearly. We need to teach ourselves to deal and cope with it after we broke down and cry.

Some people deal with grief differently. The ‘strong’ one believes that to deal with grief and loss are to BE STRONG. Ignore the feelings and it will go away. ‘Be strong’ and don’t cry for it will just make things worst. Scrap these thoughts. This is one of the stages of grief, which are:

  1. Denial – the stage where you believe you have to be strong, and no other choice than be firm and strong.
  2. Anger – the stage where you would blame everything and every one of why things happen.
  3. Bargaining – the stage where you were considering ‘what ifs’ and trying to negotiate within your ‘if this turn out to be like that, I would..’
  4. Depression – the stage where you started to believe there’s no way out.
  5. Acceptance – the stage where you are strong enough to ‘move on’.

Accept the fact that you will have breakdowns. We are talking about losing someone we love, eternally. There will be no phone call answered, no messages, no news, no soothing or even annoying voices. All is gone, in a blink of eyes. Accept it. And cry, if you should. Once you are done crying, gather your strength. Deal with it. Recognize your emotions. Don’t shove it away.

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Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom. -RUMI-

People handle grief differently. One can be a softie, cry all out and could live ‘unhealthy’ in the longest time. One can just ‘move on’ showing no emotion. One can deny everything and live in their own kind of ‘make do’ truth. The wise one should learn how to cope with grief healthily.

When calamity strikes us, deal with it the way it should.

  1. Seek support and help. Turn to friends and families. Yes, some people would find it awkward to comfort a grieving friend. But that should not be the reason that you would want to keep everything within yourself. Sometimes, all you need is the ears to listen, not a mouth and thoughts of advice.
  2. Find comfort in your faith. I believe in spiritual healing. Before anything, go back and check our faith. People lose someone, people got sick, people got poor and all for reasons. To teach patience within oneself, to be thankful for what we have left, to appreciate what has passed, to increase our imaan and faith. Yes, take a time out. Treat your inner spirit, the most soothing, calming, comforting resolution.
  3. Move on. Your evil mind will tell you that by moving on, you are dishing away all the good times and memories and bury them with the loss. Stop the thought! Life goes on and as much as people would tell you not to dwell with the loss, doesn’t mean that we have to shove everything away and start living a new life. The memories define you and will always be part of you. It just that, teach yourself to adapt to the new scene without our loved ones.
  4. Seek professional help. Yes, if its way to difficult for you to live your life without your loved one, as much as you’ve tried, seek professional advise. Book a slot with trained counsellors, therapists or psychologists. They are professionals who have dealt with a lot of case studies and can identify the issues you are dealing with, can empathise and sympathise, and able to give you insights and thoughts on how best to deal with your grief.
  5. Stay away from social media or make any own major decisions and judgements.  Trust me. As much as some people would find comfort in sharing their emotions and feelings in social media like Facebook status updates, Twitter shoutouts, Instagrams postings and all, those won’t add values to stabilize your mental states of mind. To some extent, it is fear that it would encourage negative feedbacks and decisions that you might regret it later in life.

As a Muslim, we must never despair in God’s Mercy. The tragedy that we had to faced is not to undermine or put us down. It is to build the stronger us. Do not fall into despair, but turn to the One for help. Always remember:
“By the Glorious Morning Light, and by the Night when it is still!  The Guardian-Lord has not forsaken you nor does He hate you. And verily the Hereafter will be better for you than the present. And soon will your Guardian-Lord give you that wherewith you shall be well-pleased.” (Quran 93:1-5)

Have faith in yourself. Things happened for reasons, good reasons.

Power Word to Teach A Child: APOLOGY

Apology (n) as being defined in the Oxford Dictionary is :

  1. A formal expression of regret at being unable to attend a meeting or social function.

Parents, this is definitely among the words that our children NEED to learn, and use it as often as possible when it’s required. This is definitely one of the power word that not only children need to know, but also adults.

As per my earlier post, children learn the art of achievement and acknowledgement and children entitled to be angry. Children need to master the art of apologizing.

Saying you are sorry isn’t easy for anyone-especially children. Some may not understand why do they need to say sorry and some may refused to do it. This is how nurture comes after nature. Lead by example. As adults, if we are not right, we are not right. We should apologize when the occasion arises. Especially of the wrongs are towards the little ones. By admitting our faults, not that we showed them how it should be done, we will also earn respects from them without us asking.

Children need to learn the value of apologizing. The need to understand why they need to do it voluntarily and how they could offer an apology. Don’t deny me when I said that most of the time, we have to force our children for an apology, which should not be the way.

How can we help our children to say sorry and mean it?Children need to understand these three concepts in apologizing:

  1. Reflect and remorse. They need to understand what act they have committed and why it was not appropriate. By understanding the root cause of the issues, children would be able to evaluate and identify or even justify the mistakes they’ve done. The natural feeling of being sorry for their action will surely stream through then.
  2. Righteousness and repent. Upon understanding, teach them the how they could make amend on the mistakes done. Guide them the right way to say sorry. It’s not supposed to be as easy as saying ‘sorry’and that’s it. Children need to know the correct body language (the eye, the hand and all) and the right words when saying sorry. They need to say it out loud why they are apologizing so that related parties understand and so do themselves. They need to make a pledge to themselves not to repeat the same offense once they offer an apology, be it intentionally or unintentionally.
  3. Recompense and remedy. For the mistakes they’ve made, should they be any physical compensation requires, they need to compensate accordingly. It’s the penalty they are paying even after they showed their regrets and promise not to repeat the offense.
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‘Apology is the first step in correcting wrong.’
-Alveda King-

We do not have to be angry when things happened. It’s not the end of the world. Teach them in the loving manners so they know that we meant well and not to find faults. However, do be firm so that they understand this is serious matter. May our children grow being a responsible person they should.

Power Word to Teach A Child: ANGRY

Achievement (adj) as being defined in the Oxford Dictionary is:

  1. Feeling or showing strong annoyance, displeasure, or hostility; full of anger.
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‘To be angry is to revenge the faults of others to ourselves.’
– Alexander Pope –

This feeling is unavoidable. Not to adults, be it to children. As parents, we couldn’t stop our children from being angry. However, we can help them to learn how to control their anger. Teach our children that being angry is normal, but it’s important to let go of the things make us angry.

When my son was ten years old, the school headmaster called us for a meeting to discuss on how we could help him with his anger management. He was caught having a tense argument with his classmate that he finally broke down with anger. We were worried but also being defensive ourselves. Only to realize that we have to admit his issue and had to work with him to help him with his anger.

We came up with these:

  1. Parents’communication. We realized we were a bit ‘tough’with him. Being the eldest, we expected him to be ‘perfect’and make no room for mistake. When his anger issue was brought up to our attention, we realized that we had to loosen up and communicate more with him a correct manner.
  2. We introduce him the NARP terms. No Agression, React Peacefully. We told him that there’s nothing wrong of being angry, but how he reacted to his anger that matters. Anger won’t last long, but if he made any move to vent out his anger without thinking, he might regret it in the long term.
  3. We recognized that he needed to vent out his anger. We encouraged him to talk to us, his teachers or anyone his trust. He could even write a journal about it. If he still find no peace after venting out his anger, he might want to escalate this to the person that he’s angry at and discuss in a civilized manner. Discuss when he was not angry, but just express his dissatisfaction.

In Islam, angry is nothing but a lose-lose situation. Nobody is gaining anything from it, and some may get worst by anger.

Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: The strong-man is not one who wrestles well but the strong man is one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage.
Sahih Muslim Book 032, 6313

Yes, we do get angry when others step on our toes and cross our ‘boundary’. But as the saying goes ‘ for every minute you remain angry, you lost sixty second of your peace of mind.’ Patience and love are all we need. Angry is a disease that really need special attention. It could turn ugly if we ignore it. Don’t!

Education: To Board or Not To Board

Well, in a week time, the new year will be replacing this year. As for us in Malaysia, the school will welcome back their students.. fuh! finally!  And so, what’s next? By now, parents have already know the direction of their child of which school to go. I would like to talk about boarding school. As we know, as early as thirteen years old, children do have the option to apply for boarding school. Some may look forward for that while others may have some fear haunting at the back of their mind.

From my personal point of view, I would opt for my children to go for boarding school. Nope, not that I want them to go out of my way as early as thirteen years old. O, I still miss my son who is going to be fourteen next year and on his second year in the boarding school. On the other hand, for boys particularly, to be in the boarding school is something that do more good to them than going to the day-school.

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I’m listing down, briefly, the pros (in my opinion) of sending our children to the boarding school in Malaysia:

  1. Opportunity: The facilities and the academic exposures are bigger than the day-school.
  2. Great teachers: Most of the teachers are high quality teachers with great motivation wanting to educate the student.
  3. Good company: Surrounding with peers who focus more on studies than entertainment.
  4. Independent: Making their own bed, laundry, routine and all are the life-skills that children in boarding school would pickup faster as compared to their friends who are in the day-school.

On the other side of the coin, parents should also have to know the cons:

  1. Bullying: Yup, it’s ugly and still there.
  2. Money issue: The expenses are more as compared to the public day-school.
  3. The ‘boarding school syndrome’: The feelings of being away from home will make the children tend to isolate themselves and don’t have a close bonding between the siblings.

For whatever, I guess we as parents know best and wanted the best for our children. May they grow up to be a successful person, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Power Word to Teach A Child: ACHIEVEMENT

Achievement (n) as being defined in the Oxford Dictionary are:

  1. A thing done successfully with effort, skill, or courage.
  2. The process or fact of achieving something
  3. A representation of a coat of arms with all the adjuncts to which a bearer of arms is entitled.

In a parenting context, achievement that we need to teach our child is the success in a particular area after exerting great effort. Yes, EFFORT is the root word.

In simple term, achievement is the result or outcome after we reach certain milestones like major exams, graduation, scholarships, job interviews and many more. Achievement are so closely related to being successful. Every parent would always wanted to encourage their children to achieve the best.

As parents, we need to recognize that achievement is a result when all the efforts has been put in place and the outcome is not necessarily be the best grades on paper, but must also complement with other factors.

A great life characters, good values, strong emotional strength and understand every being surroundings would definitely boost flying colours scores in the academic department.

Children need to understand that they need to achieve their specific aims and goals so that they could learn to put their best foot forward. Nevertheless, they also need that to ensure their mental, physical, emotional and spiritual are all balance out in order to achieve their best.

Should our children do not meet our expectation in achieving what they are supposed to achieve, parents should never express your frustration as it would do more harm than good.

“Even a mistake may turn out to be the one thing necessary to a worthwhile achievement” – Henry Ford –
  • Praise their efforts. They have put their best and it was unlucky that the outcome did not turn up as they wished. 
  • Sit with them and analyse what went wrong. Take the lesson learnt and discuss with them on ways to improve. 
  • Encourage them not to get discourage.  It’s not the end. Plan the strategies to move forward and to achieve success.

Tell them for whatever outcome they are getting, at the end of the day, their effort that counts and that is the greatest achievement one should treasure.

Power Word to Teach A Child: ACKNOWLEDGE

Acknowledge (v) as being defined in the Oxford Dictionary are:

  1. to accept or admit the existence or truth of
  2. to recognize the importance or quality of
  3. to show that one has noticed or recognized (someone) by making a gesture or greeting.
  4. to confirm (receipt of something)

In teaching children about acknowledge is to make them understand the important of showing awareness or express gratitude for someone’s behaviours. Being an adult, we know how pleasant it is to be acknowledged. The same goes to the children too.

Acknowledging the children when they accomplished something, behaving righteously, or just by acknowledging their new dress would definitely one of the way to boost a child’s positive behaviours. By providing them positive feedback an encouragement is crucial in developing their social-emotional learning.

Acknowledge shows presence. As much as we are aware, children as young as babies up to the teenagers, do crave attention. Take this word by heart. Acknowledge our children. Encourage them to acknowledge others too. This would definitely help them in building good self-characters.

On the other hand, children also need to understand to important to acknowledge mistakes, too. By acknowledging mistakes, one should correct the, learn from them and move on with bearing in my mind not to repeat the same mistakes. Acknowledge mistakes and weaknesses is not something bad. It is for one good.

In a laymen term. acknowledge is to accept oneself. By admitting oneself, an acknowledgement should be an aid for self-improvement.

In my religion, acknowledge the intention of wanting to do something is the root of the faith. Acknowledging that Allah is the Only God and Prophet Muhammad PBUH is His Last Messenger is a mandatory to all Muslims. By acknowledging the facts, one should ensure one is compliance to all the rules and requirements based on what is uttered.

Acknowledge is a strong word. It recognize, motivate, inspire and also reward oneself.